Transgender and Society

To begin with let’s talk about GENDER. Gender is what is between a person’s ears. Sex is what is between one’s legs, And Sexual orientation is one’s sexual preference (Gay, Bi, etc) but what I want to talk about is Gender and especially transgender.

Most transgender people are hidden so far in their closet because of the fear of losing their family, friends, and their jobs. Most Crossdressers are married and have hidden this from their wives and families for years because of this fear. Some who have been discovered after being married for many years have ended up divorced because of being discovered. Yours truly included after which I met and married a wonderful lady that not only knows but accepts. She knew long before we married.

Not all Crossdressers are on the same scale in the way that they cross-dress. Some only cross-dress on occasions and never go out of the house. Some only wear underwear then some go all out with wigs make up and go out in public. Some do things to feminize their bodies but still have no intentions of fully transitioning.

All that most transgender people want is to be accepted for who or what they are. But before that can happen the public has to be educated about the transgender community. In my opinion in order for this to happen the closet that the majority of the transgender people are in has to be opened. More of them have to come out of their closets and be known. However there is few that are willing to take that chance and the stakes are high. The LGBT has helped a lot in getting some rights for the transgender community but in order for the transgender community to really be accepted they are going to have to go public themselves. They are going to have to take that chance and risk. They have to stand up and be counted. There are a lot of transgender people out there that will never come out. They will just remain in their closet and let others do the work for them.

Being transgender is not something to be ashamed of. It is the way we were born. It is not a disease or a sickness that can be cured. It is something that you have to learn to accept and help those around us to accept. It is something that has to be talked about. No one really knows way people are transgendered just that they are and that’s the way they are.

I know I have been a crossdresser for as long as I can remember. I am the same person and act the same way I always have. When I go out I don’t try to hide the fact that I am a crossdresser. I don’t try to alter my voice I just try to blend in and not attract too much attention. I dress for the occasion and don’t try to overdo.

My Real Crossdressers Dream

My Real Crossdressers Dream

After having been a crossdresser for over fifty years. I think there are many things a crossdresser dreams of. I have had a web page for several years and have written many articles and rants. On my last web page which is no longer up thanks to AOL.com I had well over 500 thousand visitors. I tried to correspond to all who bothered to email me and made some new efriends.

If I had to limit myself to just one dream what would that dream be?

I have done a lot of thinking about this and I have come to the conclusion it would have to be. To just be myself, to be able to come and go dressed as I please when I please. Not to have to worry about who sees me or what they think. Being able to go to church dressed like any other woman. To be able to go and do anything I need to, dressed in the way that I want to.

I do go places dressed and I leave the house that way. I don’t go get dressed somewhere else and then go out. I get dressed get in the vehicle and go. I do a lot of the grocery shopping and other things while dressed. I will go to the bank and other places. When I go to work I always under dress and usually wear women’s jeans and tee shirt.

I no longer am ashamed of being a crossdresser. I haven’t been in a long time. As far as I am concerned I don’t care who knows it. However there are other persons to consider that do care. Therefore I keep a lower profile but I no longer hide.

Now the one thing that I think would be my one dream would to be able to dress up for church. Being able to go to church without having to hide who I really am.

Going shopping and to Dinner

A few days ago I had the opportunity to take a Saturday off. I went shopping and to dinner with a few friends. I spent most of the morning getting ready as I had a hour and a half drive. It doesn't usually take me that long to dress but it had been so long since I had gone out dressed that I decided to take a little extra time to get ready.

I had decided to wear a pair of skinny jeans with a bright red satin blouse and my knee high high heel boots. This turned out to be a good look especially after I put on a long gold and red coat. Actually I really liked the look that I had created.

Once i was ready to go I got in my vehicle and started to town. Once I got there I met the first friend at DSW shoes and we looked around with neither of us purchasing anything. We then went to the mall to Macy's for my friend to look for a silver purse which we didn't find. while in the mall I went to Radio Shack and purchased a new battery for one of my computers. We then met with another gal and decided to go to Ruby Tuesday's for drinks and to talk. Our waitress there was very friendly and made good conversation with us. She even took a few pictures for us and then posed with us for one.

After we left Ruby Tuesday's we went to the restaurant where we were to meet the rest of the group. There were several of us some were TS and some were GG's and somewhere SO's of other transgendered people. We had a great dinner and a great visit. With some discussions on what some of us had been through and was yet to accomplish.

Thanks to everyone for a great evening

The True Crossdresser's Dream

The True Crossdressers Dream

Before I get started let me say up front that what I am about to say is my opinion in the strictest form.

I have been a crossdresser myself for almost as long as I can remember. I am 58 years old and have been divorced once after my ex-wife decided she just couldn’t deal with the crossdressing anymore. I am now married to a wonderful woman that I love very much. She has known that I was a crossdresser from the time we met. Actually, I was dressed the first time we met. She has always supported me in any way that I chose to dress, whether it as male or female. She at times helps with doing my hair and selecting an outfit if we are going to go out on the town. However I always do my own make-up as she says I can do it better than she can.

Now here is what I think would be most Crossdressers dream. I believe that the majority of Crossdressers are heterosexual and prefer mates that are female. So I think every crossdressers dream is to have a mate that accepts and supports them in all of their endeavors regardless of what it is. Whether it be in work or play and even yes in the way that they present themselves. A wife that will keep them reeled in to so speak is often times needed. I know I like to dress a little trashy sometimes and my wife will tell me that is not appropriate for going out. If you are going to go out then you need to dress according to the event you are attending. We have attended a few formal events and we have gone to a club where you could dress a little trashy.

The thing that a crossdresser desires most is have someone they can talk with and someone to help to learn to deal with their individual situation. Crossdressers have a tendency to seek understanding and acceptance for whom and what they are. Therefore being the real crossdresser’s dream. Acceptance is everyone’s dream we can’t help who we are and not very likely will ever be able to stop crossdressing.

There are a few of us out there who have achieved and are living this dream. I feel that I am one of them. No not everyone in my family knows and hopefully never will but there again I still believe I am living the dream. Not everyone who knows I am a crossdresser approves but most accept the fact that I am who I am and that I am the same person regardless what I am wearing. This is the way it should be.

Thanks for reading and your comments are always welcome

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A poem I found some time ago

Shadow Dancer

I was there.

I was always there.

He didn't know me then,

and didn't realize who I was.

Just a shadow in his little boy dreams.

A spectral being in black lace,

come to caress his young, soft face.

He smiled in his sleep,unaware of the schemes,

that would end the joy that we had come to know.

Young and innocent,

he could not imagine how some

could hate me and my kind so.

I waited and abided my time,

for soon the awakening would be here.

He would gaze upon my face,

and would not be afraid to hold me in a friend's embrace.

We would stroll hand in hand,

kind and gentle,

through life's journeys together.

A friendship without end.

I would be free, and out of the shadows.

Alive and one, Finally able to play in the sun.

But in those dark days in the coming of age,

full of confusion, false starts and rage.

Alone and apart, we existed.

He loved and hated me at the same time,

what should have been ours,

he fought and resisted.

Heavy on him my urges did weigh.

Be gone, don't ever come back!

Those painful words I often did hear.

I would cry out to him, in anger and pain,

I can't, I can't, Don't you see?

We're brother and sister in the same place.

Look in the mirror, We have the same face.

No! No! He would shout and He would scream,

You're not real, You're nothing but a bad dream.

I am not a man, not just yet,

he said to me out loud with tears,

Streaming from our young eyes.

I'll tell you plain, and I'll tell you proud,

I'm going to be a man and lace just isn't allowed.

For years it went on like this,

him forever denying, and me always crying.

He was unable to lose me,

I was always there,

always at his side.

Insisting and pleading with him

forever offering my hand.

Begging him to accept me,

with all of my heart.

Learn about me from those of your kind.

We can exist together,

the way we were designed,

from here ever after,

this you cannot deny.

I am lonely and I am tired.

No longer defy me,

for it does us no good.

Here to stay,

I've always said.

Love me now,

pay no attention to what others may think.

Give me your heart,

and I'll give you mine.

Together the way it was meant.

We'll laugh and love,

and there'll be nothing left for you to resent.

And he finally, in this last year,

give up his fight and put a side the hate.

Willing to embrace My beautiful satin and black lace.

The healing has begun,

we are now whole.

Able to love myself,

as is my right.

One heart that beats strong,

no longer divided,

righting the wrong.

Finally able to face

what I should've always known.

I am Leah I am Leah. . . no longer alone. ______________________________________________________________________________ A poem written by Leah MacLean. I ran across this on the internet. It completely describes the feelings and what I have gone through for many years. But know I have faced it and will live as one together in happiness no matter what others may think. I am MistyG. . . no longer alone.

Moved

A few months ago I helped my parents remodel my Grandmothers house and they have since moved into it. My wife and I in turn moved in to their house. Which is now mine. This is all great as it is a good looking house and in good shape. For the most part we really like living here.

But here is the kicker. My parents and my youngest daughter now live with in shouting distance. You never know when one of them are going to drop in on us. Which is not a problem at all if they call first which they very rarely do. And to living out in the country , Most times they don't knock before entering, especially mom and pop. Usually my daughter calls before she comes.

None of this is a problem unless I happen to be dressed. Because of this I very rarely dress completely. I hardly get to put on make up or a dress anymore because it takes too long to get everything off in case some one drops by. Which with my parents at least one of them will come by on a daily basis. Unless they have to go somewhere.

My mom knows about my dressing but has never seen me when dressed. A don't ask don't tell situation. Probably my daughter knows too. Since my ex made sure that most people knew that I am a cross dresser.

I am fast getting to the point that I really don't care who comes in on me as long as I am dressed decently. Which is the case unless I just happen to be going thru the house for something. Most evenings though I do like to sit around and watch tv or read in my night gown and so does my wife. Most of the time I dress to some extent everyday. Usually in a pair of skinny jeans and a tee with panties and hose and most time a bra with small breast forms. I will a pair of heels most times in the house with a pair of womens New Balance 802 / 802 close by in case someone drops in. It is rare when I get to do makeup and wig unless we are going to go out somewhere.